Current State of Affairs
Have you ever failed? I hope you have, because that means you actually went for something, something that was most likely important to you. Have you ever quit? I hope you have not, although it is probably safe to say that we all have at some point in our lives. Both failing and quitting are often given negative connotations in today’s society, but the former may not be as bad as what it is made out to be.
“I failed my final.”
“I failed to make the team.”
“I failed to make it to my sibling’s graduation.”
All of these sound like bummers on paper…but what is the story behind them? Why did you fail? Can you make changes in your life or approach to make sure that failure does not happen again? If so, then your failure was a teacher, which you have to take seriously, but can also be grateful for IF you make the proper adjustments toward making yourself better. That brings us to an even more prevalent question of what is your story AFTER a failure? That is where comebacks and success stories are born. Lessons can be learned from failure, and success can be molded from it if you pick yourself back up. The same cannot be said about quitting. Quitting makes you restart at square one. Even worse, quitting can become a habit, and if you are consistently quitting when things get hard, you are not growing, and you are not learning from past and present experiences.
If you want anything worthwhile, you will have to be resilient against quitting when things inevitably do not go your way, fighting through failures, gleaning lessons, and applying them toward progress until you improve to a level you are satisfied with. We live in an “I want it now” society, and if we fall into that instant gratification mindset that so many share, we can unconsciously start to weaken our ability to be resilient. The vast majority sees failure as a graveyard to their dreams, and quitting as a lifeline to their safety, when in reality, the exact opposite is true, and it is crucial that we make that differentiation!
The ideal scenario
A resilient person is an unstoppable person. We should aim to be resilient in all aspects of life. Life is going to throw us some serious hits to the chin, they will be unexpected and inevitable, but if we practice and maintain resiliency, we will always get back up to allow ourselves a chance at salvaging, or bettering the situation. In fact, a resilient person welcomes the bad as much as the good!
You weren’t able to make the varsity squad this year? You “failed.” Failure is temporary however, so learn in the mean time! Why didn’t you make the varsity squad? What skills can you improve upon to give yourself a better chance next year? Who can you go to in order to help you with these skills? These are all questions resilient people ask, and they are critical to the success they will experience in the future. There is no shame in not achieving a goal on your first, second, or even third attempt. You are entitled to as many attempts as you see necessary, and the cool thing is, regardless of outcome, you will most likely be a better version of your self each time you get back up and decide to go another round. Quitting is ALWAYS an option, but a quitter’s lack of resiliency to keep going is the only sure fire way that they will never experience the success they hold in such high regard.
What if you did make varsity, but as the season progressed your performance becomes less than spectacular, and you start to doubt your ability, or even if you should have made the team considering how you have been playing lately? A quitter accepts the slump, justifies that they just may not be cut out to perform at a high level on a consistent basis. A resilient player acknowledges the slump, but does not let it affect their performance. A change needs to be made! They may be “failing” from a performance standpoint, but they will find a way to rise, and come out of this situation better than ever before. Resilient people are spurred on by challenge, because they recognize that challenge ultimately leads to growth, not disaster.
Boost solves this by
- Building resiliency through cognitive fitness
- Implementing mindset changes to bolster resiliency
- Teaching the importance behind resiliency
- Showing the consequences of a lack of resiliency