Current State of Affairs
When we do not effectively respond to emotions and situations throughout the day, we are more likely to use other ways to regulate our mood. This might be related to temporary relief from emotions rather than effectively responding to them. It might mean over or under eating. It could be turning to alcohol or other suppressants and drugs to escape from the emotions and creating a dependency-based behavior to stay away from them. These behaviors can be subtle or extreme, but in any case, only act to mask the emotion which will keep reoccurring until dealt with using the right tools.
Our emotional health is strongly connected with our physical health. Think of contemporary increases of obesity and addictions over recent years with correlating rates of mental health issues. Our body is known to store our emotions unless they are regulated effectively. Such disconnection with our emotions results in consistently high levels of stress for mind and body, states of anxiety and cycles of depression because we are not equipped with the tools to manage or cope with the underlying emotions which cause them. These coping mechanisms can be part of a family, workplace or general society’s way of dealing with emotions. It can be passed down in such a way through teams, generations and cultures.
Our emotions and ways of coping with them extends beyond our own mind and body because it almost always affects our friends, families and colleagues too. When we are unable to clearly understand or communicate our own emotions and the those of the people around us, conflict can arise. We need to understand our own emotions and how to regulate them as well as be empathetic to those of the people around us.
The ideal scenario
When we are emotionally intelligent, we are able to recognize our emotions as they arise and change throughout the day. It is not about never being angry or sad or upset, these are all valid and human emotions which are accepted. It is about knowing how to recognize and regulate such emotions effectively so that they do not overwhelm us and lead to masking mechanisms. This type of intelligence is used repeatedly in different situations to understand moment to moment, what our own emotions are as well as the emotions of those around us.
When we understand our own emotions, we are able to take responsibility for them and are less likely to negatively impact others around us. We are likely to live in happier and healthier bodies because our emotional needs are being met and the behaviors we develop to cope with our emotions is not detrimental to our physical wellbeing. We have a deeper connection to ourselves and due to our empathy with others, the relationships in our life are also able to grow deeper and stronger. This is invaluable in developing our social connections and a network of support around which acts as a key contributor to our happiness.
Emotional intelligence is at the base of almost everything we do.It allows us to respond to situations which arise throughout the day rather than react to them. As such, it is a strong predictor of our success and performance, whether it is in sport, business or in life. With emotional intelligence comes greater psychological wellbeing which gives us a more meaningful connection to ourselves, those around us and ultimately, the way we live our lives.
Boost solves this by
- Offering an evaluation of your emotional intelligence to understand areas to improve
- Effective tools to recognize your emotions throughout the day
- Techniques to respond rather than react to your emotions
- Reflective techniques to understand the emotions of those around you.