Conflict Resolution

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Conflict is ever present in any sport. By signing up, you put yourself in its path. You will experience conflict against your opponents. After all, the competitive nature of sport is defined by the conflict of opposing sides battling it out to see who is superior at a given time. Games can be won or lost long before the actual competition starts if you are not mentally prepared for this conflict, your opponent has the ability to psyche you out…but only if you let them.

You will encounter conflict against your self. Perhaps the greatest struggle we can face and challenge ourselves with is the fight against one’s self! This is a very healthy and beneficial fight if gone about in the correct manner, often times serving as the fire toward self improvement! It can also turn toxic if you believe yourself to never be good enough, no matter what you accomplish.

In your path to self improvement, you may encounter conflict against your limits. We all have them in the back of our minds, self made plateaus that we do not feel worthy of surpassing for whatever reason we can come up in our psyche. Often times these reasons are shrouded in our fears and insecurities, and to gain our full potential, those must be faced, head on.

From time to time, we may even experience conflict against teammates or even coaches. Despite being on the same side, emotions can flare up in the heat of the moment, especially amongst a group that works passionately toward a goal, day in day out.

Conflict can hit from many sides, and can be extremely divisive if we let it. It can make us isolate ourselves, cliques can be formed on teams that should be one family, and groups of athletes can forever be robbed of their full potential. If conflict is inevitable, then strategies toward its resolution MUST be taught in order to face and overcome the occasional rough patches. The truth is, conflict isn’t always bad, but that silver lining will depend entirely upon how we manage it when it comes around.

The ideal scenario

Many view conflict as uncomfortable. Some will avoid it at all costs. Conflict shouldn’t be feared however, as it often times is the first step toward growth!

Conflict against our opponents should be seen as an opportunity to test what you have been working on as  team or individual. See your opponents as “teammates” in the sense of they are directly responsible for giving you the adrenaline and the butterflies that are often associated before a game that will allow you to play at a higher level than you are typically able to achieve. Without the adrenaline that comes along with a competition, it would be no different than a practice. The competitive conflict is good, as it allows us a chance to use our senses at their sharpest point…if we stay in control of our emotions.

Conflict against one’s self is a mature battle. A happy medium must be met between brutal honesty toward what needs to be improved mixed with a patient admiration toward all the work that we are putting in. The struggle to make one’s self better is one of the most valiant causes there is, and it is a struggle at times! But once you come through that fire, you will be a better product…if you keep a predominantly positive mindset throughout.

Conflict against your limits can hurt. In order to push past out limits, we first have to meet them, and that can be tiring, both physically and mentally. There are rewards for such bravery however, and those are often times met with breakthroughs. The conflict has to be initiated though, new levels cannot be achieved until the old ones have been tried and surpassed.

Conflict amongst your team can lead to opportunities for you to grow closer. Getting along with your teammates and coaches will be much easier if you invest in the idea of improving your emotional intelligence. Initially getting in touch with your emotions, understanding them, and learning to control them for the betterment of your self and those around can help you understand why others behave the way they do as well. With this knowledge, you can diffuse inter team conflicts through discussing issues through logically instead of feeding into emotional outbursts.

Do not fear conflict; instead, meet it, look for its resolution, and grow.

Boost solves this by

  1. Touching on types of conflict that one may encounter
  2. Teaching how to view conflict appropriately
  3. Teaching how to respond instead of react to conflict
  4. Stressing the importance of emotional intelligence