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Current State of Affairs (why is this happening and what problems is it causing)
Conflict can arise with individuals, groups and with ourselves. It is where there is an unresolved difference which may be an opinion or interest. It can make or break relationships,both personally and professionally. When conflict is not resolved it can escalate quickly and create a matter much worse than before. Conflict requires attention, energy and communication without which relationships are difficult to save.
At work, where there are many different personalities, responsibilities and priorities, conflict can arise if we are unable to harmonise interests and work towards a common goal. This can affect the final outcome of any given project or aim and cause wider disruptions to the team. At home or in any relationship, conflict is also likely to arise at some point but it is our choice when it comes to how we deal with it in any given situation. An inability to deal with conflict effectively can have damaging effects on the quality of our relationships and the network we can depend on.
Conflict with ourselves can also relate to our self esteem, the way we value and understand who we are and how we act in day to day life. This relationship with ourselves is often the mirror for the relationships we hold with others and if it is broken, it is likely to have an impact on those around us whether they are our team and colleagues or friends and family. If we are unable to see the impact of our own conflict, it is likely to weaken the trust we have in others and in turn the trust they have in us.
Modern day conflict is often dealt with outside adjudicators, judicial systems and counsellors but what is often unresolved is the conflict which we have with ourselves and the power we have to change that. Conflict can also impact our health. It takes a lot of energy to be engaged with conflict. It can be emotionally and physically exhausting. Conflict can also lead to longer term mental health issues such as anxiety, suppression of emotions and depression if a resolution is not found, especially if the conflict is ongoing over a period of time.
The ideal scenario (if this weren’t and issue what would the person or situation look like)
We can’t avoid conflict but can change the way we deal with it. Conflict resolution is about being able to approach conflict objectively with a view to finding the best solution for those involved. It means we are able to act in a way that is effective and efficient so that the impact of the conflict is minimal before it is resolved. When we resolve conflict, our relationships with ourselves and with others prosper. This is the foundation to success both personally and professionally.
Conflict resolution requires an understanding of one’s own emotions as well as an empathy towards others. We need to be able to see the conflict from both sides and find a harmonious way to resolve the situation. Without becoming overwhelmed, conflict resolution helps us to act instead of react in our relationships. This means that we are aware and responsible for our own actions and emotions. We are equanimous and emotionally in tune which allows us to act with sincerity to solve any conflict as it arises.
Conflict resolution is a skill which can be practiced long before external conflict occurs, it can be used to heal conflict within ourselves which can impact those around us. This is a preventative measure. It can also be practiced as a communication style which deals with conflict occurring in the present or to resolve conflict which has already passed.
Communication is the key to solving conflict. With an effective communication style,we are able to express our needs and meet those of others. It means that we can understand our relationship with others more deeply and be understood better in return. Communication which solves conflict enhances a relationship and allows the parties involved to grow and evolve from it. It is a chance to improve relationships if it is dealt with appropriately and can allow us to have more meaningful connections and lives, both at work and at home.
Boost solves this by (don’t give away the secret sauce…just talk about benefits of mindfulness, emotional intelligence, communication, time management, cognitive fitness
1 – Understanding your communicative style
2- Biohacks which allow you to respond rather than react in conflict
3- Emotional intelligence training
4 – Understanding your strengths